It's not an easy or quick decision for most of us. It's a decision that, if made prematurely, can land us in more sticky situations. If we cut off contact with family and then a situation arises which requires us to communicate with them again (such as coordination on tax dependent filing status), we then... Continue Reading →
The Vices of False Modesty and Habitual Self-Deprecation
Growing up, I was taught (more passively than actively) that self-deprecation was the opposite of narcissism; to avoid being a narcissist, I had to put myself down and think of myself as insignificant. I had to see my abilities and place in the world as small and unimportant. And I had to play down or... Continue Reading →
Learning Self-Care: Recovering from the Unrealistic Expectations of Organized Religion
Only recently have I been learning more intentionally about self-care, and more clearly acknowledging its importance for me and others. When our wells are dry, we have nothing left to give anyone. Self-care is one of the kindest things we can do for our community, as well as ourselves. The concept of showing kindness to... Continue Reading →